Okay, it’s rant time. I know I should be posting about writing here, but I couldn’t think of a better place for it.
Maybe this is just one of those rumors going around on the internet, but I heard a man is actually walking up to women and telling to smile, or just that they’d be prettier if they smiled.
|I assume this is what he looks like, except replace the yellow circle with a horse's butt.|
Sounds like a good way to get punched in the throat to me. It’s quite an insult to women in general, as if by smiling some magic unicorn will appear dancing on a rainbow to poop puppies and pee starlight. And it’ll make them pretty? Puh-lease. You don’t need to smile to look pretty the same way you don’t need to frown to look pretty.
Then there’s the whole invalidation of being told that you’ll only be acceptable if you smile. I don’t know if I have a funny face or something, but I’ve had a few people yell at me for my facial expression even though I have no idea what I did to deserve it. The clearest example is when I was in sixth grade and a teacher flipped out at me for giving her a “dirty look” when I glanced at her in passing. Her reaction was so over the top (not to mention humiliating) that I’m still extremely uncomfortable allowing my face to emote. Which in turn means I get called “grumpy” and “mad” even when I’m not.
Yeah, it’s kind of a sensitive subject for me. I’ve been judged for how I appear in a minor, yet not insignificant, way. So I don’t like hearing someone tell me if I look a certain way, I’ll somehow be better. I like the way I am even if I look "grumpy".
Thoughts? Am I taking this too seriously (well, obviously)? What would you do if someone came up to you and told you to smile?